Leo Olk Miller: Our Forever Baby

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Seventeen years ago today, I joined a tribe I didn’t know existed.

  • On May 14, 1998, with broken hearts, my husband and I welcomed our full term stillborn son, Leo Olk Miller into the world.

    We were devastated. We knew that his spirit had left his body before he was born. And what a magnificent spirit it was. Before he was born, he had touched so many hearts and souls with joy, connection and laughter. So many people were looking forward to greeting this new soul.

    Despite our sorrow, we were eager to touch him, to hold him, to cradle him in our arms. Our families came to meet him – to touch him. They gathered around and held on tightly to us. The love and courage of our families buoyed us as we sank into the deep sadness of losing our baby.

    Later that night, after everyone had gone home, Leo’s spirit came to visit. He washed us with love and light. He blessed us with the immense joy and happiness he was now feeling. He let us know that he was happy and well. And he let us know that in time we would be happy again too.

    We will never know why he left his beautiful, perfect body. But his powerful spirit – that joyful, playful, loving spirit – lives on in our family.

    Happy Birthday Leo, our forever baby.
    We are so grateful for the gifts you give our family.
    With love and tenderness, Mommy

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    1. Nancy Jambor
      Nancy Jambor says:

      Mary, tears are running down my face as write to you. Thank you for sharing this very tender and loving post about your son Leo. You and your family have a special angel watching over you today and every day. Blessings to you Dear Mary.

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    2. Dori Haugen
      Dori Haugen says:

      Mary! Thank you for sharing your great sadness with us.
      I feel blessed to have reconnected with you and met your husband.
      many blessings,
      Dori

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